First There was Me, The Journey to You | A book for families by Jaimie Selwa

“First comes love. Then comes marriage.
Then comes the baby in the baby carriage.”

It’s time this old nursery rhyme gets an update.

Struggling with infertility opened my eyes to another world where families are made in many ways. First there was me. Then there was the journey—to you.

I wrote First There was Me, The Journey to You after our second failed transfer in 2020. In the middle of a pandemic and our first IVF cycle, I needed an outlet to channel my emotions. I started writing and, as a result, I wrote this book.

This book is a great gift for anyone going through infertility, same sex couples or single parents. It’s a representation of all the different ways people can build their families through infertility treatment, adoption and surrogacy. It’s a great way to help your child understand the different ways families are made.

Example page of "First There was Me, The Journey to You"

Everyone is unique;
Families are too.

How your family is made
may not be up to you.

Some families have one parent;
some families have two.

Some families have one mommy or daddy that equally love you.

Just like families,  the path to making one will be your own.

Know that there is no right or wrong way, and know that you’re not alone.

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Jaimie Selwa, Author of "First There was Me, The Journey to You"

about the author

Jaimie Selwa lives with her husband and their two rescued pups in Ohio. She’s an active advocate for animal-rescue organizations and a volunteer for local nonprofits.

While helping those organizations find their voice, she found her own in her infertility journey. She and her husband never thought they’d be diagnosed with infertility when they were trying to expand their family. But when life gave her lemons, she decided to make lemonade. She is making it her mission to educate and bring awareness to the many ways you can make a family.

Learn more about Jaimie here. And for an honest and humorous look into the life of infertility, follow Jaimie on Instagram at @InfertileChronicles.

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“First There Was Me is a sweet and thoughtful book that celebrates the various ways we create family. But it is more than a book. It’s a heartfelt invitation, gently creating a space where we can start conversations about important topics like infertility.”

Nikki

"First There Was Me is a beautiful and from the heart journey about the different ways families are created and highlights the love that remains at the center of each family story. It is a look into the lens of infertility and shows the beauty of hope and love continuing to shine through despite hardship."

Brittany

As an interracial couple, it’s important to us to share with our future children from an early age that not every family looks the same and that there are different ways to make a family. Every family has a unique, personal story—one that should be accepted, respected and celebrated. First There was Me will help us on our path to raising open-minded children.

Callie